Writing Letters to Ourselves

I still have the first letter I’ve ever received.

It was from my best friend when she was away at camp during the summer. I was 8 or 9 I think.

I never went away on vacation long enough to actually write and send letters myself growing up.

As a teenager I wrote letters frequently. We’d exchange them between classes or go home with one.

I’ve always liked the art form. It’s an easy way to share a part of ourselves. There’s no immediate response needed like in a conversation.

Throughout the years after high school I’ve had a few correspondences who sadly all fizzled out.

I could never find someone as long-winded and willing to share as I was.

It’s partly why I started to blog in the first place.

To send my thoughts out to anyone who would like to read them.

I think most of us have lost the habit of writing letters.

That’s something I’d like to get back into.

If, like me, you have no one to send them to, you might want to consider an obvious recipient.

Yourself.

For the month of February I will be writing letters to myself.

A letter addressed to my past self and my future self.

A letter to open on sad days, one to read on happy days.

All sorts of letters, from me to me.

Because it’s the month of love and it should be the month of self-love as well. (or so I say!)



You can join me if you want. Think of it as a writing prompt.

Do you ever write letters? To whom?

Do you miss old fashioned correspondence?

I’d love to know in the comments.

*Photo Credit: Bianca Moraes flickr Creative Commons 2.0

Same Same But Different

I’ve always been a good girl.

Sweet, agreeable, kind. Quiet.

Those are the adjectives used to describe me. I have no problem with using them to describe myself either.

I’m generally a nice person and most of all I want to be a nice person.

That’s the core of who I am.

However, if I’m being honest I have put on layers that hide this truth at many points in my life.

Sometimes I forgot to be nice to others.

Most of the time I forgot to be nice to myself. 

I may have said or done the wrong thing and disappointed people I love throughout the years but I’ve definitely let myself down.

I let myself get focused on what I should do or shouldn’t do. I waited too long to go after my dreams because I didn’t think I deserved them.

I’m here to say this:

Even good girls get it wrong sometimes.

There is however one thing that we are great at and that is forgiving.

I forgive myself for all the times I insisted on staying the same.

The good parts of me will always be there even if I’m not the exact same.

I’ll just be same same but different.

The updated version of me.


Have you dealt with guilt about always being the same version of yourself?

Have you forgiven yourself? If not, what’s keeping you from doing it?

I’d love to know your thoughts in the comments.

*Photo Credit: Alice Barigelli flickr Creative Commons 2.0

What Motivational Speakers Don’t Tell You

If you have dreams, you’ll know exactly where I’m coming from. Well, I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have at least one dream, so everyone can relate to what I’m about to discuss.

In the back of our minds we all have something we want to accomplish. It might be for yourself, for your children, for prosperity, heck even for money!

The why doesn’t matter really, whatever the reason I think we are all guilty of doing this:

Getting obsessed with self-help books, motivational speeches, business coaches’podcasts, famous vloggers living the dream (take your pick).

I mean, there’s a reason my title prompted you to read this.

We want to learn how to achieve our dreams. What better way to get inspired and to learn than trying to soak up all the knowledge given by those who succeeded before us?

I’m guilty of it, I love all the content that teaches how to get organized, how to be productive, how to get motivated, how to be more creative, how to do…everything! (pretty much)

The thing is (this is the moment you’ve been waiting for) motivational speakers or anyone who gives advice on “how-to” something, never tell you that you don’t need to listen to their advice. 

That’s it?

Are you kidding me?

No, I’m not. Let me explain.

Now, I know that obviously they won’t tell you that (they need a paycheck after all).

I’m not implying that all the advice out there is not valuable. A lot of it most certainly is.

But.

It gets us into thinking that we need to change this and that before we can tackle/get results on our projects.

Let’s take me for example.

A while ago I came across a video on “5 things successful people do before 8am”.

Our daily routine is the foundation for future success, that’s basic “motivational” knowledge.

Variations of these abound but the gist of them all is the same. You should get up early, meditate/pray, read, exercise, review your dreams/goals, etc.

I forged my own routine, I was going to get up at 8 every day, read for 30min, write a blog post, do chores and the list goes on.

It was going to be great, I would become this better version of myself. I would finally be productive. I thought to myself “once I become the kind of person who can stick to a routine, I will finally be able to do everything I want to accomplish”.

Of course, I failed. I’m not a robot.

The key point is, every time I failed, I would get derailed. I couldn’t focus on doing y because I didn’t do x like I was supposed to and how lame was I that I wasn’t even able to stick to a simple routine.

I was so obsessed on getting all the habits I thought I needed to be successful that my focus was not on my dreams and goals anymore!

My advice is (though you don’t have to listen to me, remember?) you don’t need new shiny habits, you don’t need to listen to anyone telling you how to go about becoming the kind of person you (think) need to be to reach your dreams.

All you need is yourself.

You don’t reach your dreams because you are successful, you are successful because you reached your dreams. 

Skip trying to change yourself to achieve your dreams, the process of getting to your goal is what we will change you. 

What do you think? Can you relate to this obsession with “self-help”, motivational material?

I’d love to hear from you.