If you have dreams, you’ll know exactly where I’m coming from. Well, I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have at least one dream, so everyone can relate to what I’m about to discuss.
In the back of our minds we all have something we want to accomplish. It might be for yourself, for your children, for prosperity, heck even for money!
The why doesn’t matter really, whatever the reason I think we are all guilty of doing this:
Getting obsessed with self-help books, motivational speeches, business coaches’podcasts, famous vloggers living the dream (take your pick).
I mean, there’s a reason my title prompted you to read this.
We want to learn how to achieve our dreams. What better way to get inspired and to learn than trying to soak up all the knowledge given by those who succeeded before us?
I’m guilty of it, I love all the content that teaches how to get organized, how to be productive, how to get motivated, how to be more creative, how to do…everything! (pretty much)
The thing is (this is the moment you’ve been waiting for) motivational speakers or anyone who gives advice on “how-to” something, never tell you that you don’t need to listen to their advice.
Are you kidding me?
No, I’m not. Let me explain.
Now, I know that obviously they won’t tell you that (they need a paycheck after all).
I’m not implying that all the advice out there is not valuable. A lot of it most certainly is.
It gets us into thinking that we need to change this and that before we can tackle/get results on our projects.
Let’s take me for example.
A while ago I came across a video on “5 things successful people do before 8am”.
Our daily routine is the foundation for future success, that’s basic “motivational” knowledge.
Variations of these abound but the gist of them all is the same. You should get up early, meditate/pray, read, exercise, review your dreams/goals, etc.
I forged my own routine, I was going to get up at 8 every day, read for 30min, write a blog post, do chores and the list goes on.
It was going to be great, I would become this better version of myself. I would finally be productive. I thought to myself “once I become the kind of person who can stick to a routine, I will finally be able to do everything I want to accomplish”.
Of course, I failed. I’m not a robot.
The key point is, every time I failed, I would get derailed. I couldn’t focus on doing y because I didn’t do x like I was supposed to and how lame was I that I wasn’t even able to stick to a simple routine.
I was so obsessed on getting all the habits I thought I needed to be successful that my focus was not on my dreams and goals anymore!
My advice is (though you don’t have to listen to me, remember?) you don’t need new shiny habits, you don’t need to listen to anyone telling you how to go about becoming the kind of person you (think) need to be to reach your dreams.
All you need is yourself.
You don’t reach your dreams because you are successful, you are successful because you reached your dreams.
Skip trying to change yourself to achieve your dreams, the process of getting to your goal is what we will change you.
What do you think? Can you relate to this obsession with “self-help”, motivational material?
I’d love to hear from you.