Breaking Up with Veganism

Has veganism treated you badly? Are you considering parting ways with your hard headed guilt tripping socially inept partner?

If so, know that you’re not the only one. As for myself I’ll continue to put up with the occasional frustrations of our ever evolving relationship but a whooping 30 million adults in the US have given up. Are you one of them?

Before you consider totally severing all ties, I urge you to give veganism another chance. I don’t care if it’s been years since you’ve last crossed paths.

*But you don’t understand*

“Veganism betrayed me”

“Veganism made empty promises”

“Veganism didn’t get along with anyone in my life”

Now, I hear you. I know. You’ve had a tumultuous experience together. You have your reticence.

Were you lured by promises that it would treat your body right? Help you lose weight? Or was it the luscious green of all the salads that attracted you at first glance?

Was it the cute little faces of cuddly farm animals that seduced you?

Courtesy of Jesse Gillies Creative Commons 2.0 License

Yes, this evil manipulator will use every trick in the book to get your interest. 

Your family warned you of how dangerous this relationship could be.

“You won’t get enough protein.”

“What about B12?”

But you didn’t listen. Did you?

I know I didn’t.

Now you’ve came to your senses, and you ask:

“Why should I even listen to you?”

The answer is simple. Because deep down you want to.

You never forgot how good veganism made you feel in the honeymoon phase. You’ve been dreaming of feeling this way again. Nothing compares to that rush of being in a relationship that your mom disapproves of. Add to that its trendy and sexy glow that you’ve been missing ever since.

What now?

What should you do?

As a self processed expert in the arena of all kinds of relationship troubles, I’ll give you some tips.

#1 Get to know each other before you start talking about commitment

If you jumped head first into the relationship the first time, you wouldn’t be the only one. 65% of former vegetarians/vegans report getting involved only after a few days or a few weeks. Needless to say, a third of them didn’t make it past 3 months and 50% have quit in less than a year.

Don’t be a part of those sad statistics, get informed and take your time before you consider letting veganism enter into your life.

Sure, health (58% mentioned it as their motivation) is an important part in your attraction but it shouldn’t be only about that. Ethics and environmental issues are the less exciting parts of the relationship but they deserve respect. Look. Into. It.

#2 Don’t be too quick to introduce yourselves at social events

Now, I know it may be tempting to just come out and hope for the best but if you’re inclined to care about others’ opinion, wait it out. Explain that you’re simply experimenting.  At least during the “getting to know each other phase” (see above). Your relationship will be stronger for it.

#3 Variety is the spice of life

I’m not suggesting that you should cheat, but you really need to look over at all the options that you do have. Nothing is worse than reliving yesterday over and over on your plate. If you have internet and are reading this, you have no excuse. Google *vegan food porn* (you’re welcome)

#4 Join a support group

Do you ever feel so alone that you’re starting to contemplate paying someone just so you can eat those baby lambs’ legs and eat with someone else than your sad reflection on the back of your spoon?

Don’t fret (and resort to such drastic murderous tendencies), support groups for those of us who are in this crazy relationship with veganism abounds. It’s 2016 after all.

There’s a community for anyone out there. Even those who eat baby lambs *gasp*

Join your local vegan/vegetarian Facebook groups. Find other desperate souls just like you.

#5 Stay faithful during hard times

Every relationship has its ups and downs, this one is no different. You come home and don’t feel like cooking yet again. The dishes from your last culinary fails are piling up in the sink. You’ve gained another pound from last’s week sudden realization that oreos are vegan.


It’ll be alright.

Frustrations are a healthy part of this relationship you are building.

Talk to your new friends on Facebook. Ask questions. You’ll get through the rough patches.

I have and you can too.


Study of Current and Former Vegetarians and Vegans

Study of Current and Former Vegetarians and Vegans -qualitative findings-

*Top Image courtesy Take Back Your Health Conference Creative Commons 2.0 License


5 thoughts on “Breaking Up with Veganism

  1. I don’t know…. I’m all for making sure you eat local, properly sourced meats. I don’t think I could give up meat though, AND cheese. How do you live without cheese?!


    1. First of all, thank you for being the first commenter ever on my blog and I love “Happily Hostile” haha. If you told me 3 years ago that I would give up meat and cheese I would’ve said no way! Still I went vegan overnight and I never found it hard to be without meat and cheese. I guess you never know until you try. It was like a on/off switch was turned on in my brain after I watched “The greatest speech you’ll ever hear” by Gary Yourofsky (which I linked in my post. Knowledge is power when it comes to living life without cheese. For me it definitely was a -haha- moment when I realized anything and I really mean anything you’ll ever want to eat can be made vegan. I linked on my post. They do great “cheeze” sauces and vegan versions of so many yummy food. The reflection around what we eat and where it comes from and why is a long road with twists and turns but I think its important that everyone get on it no matter where you’re coming from or where it leads you. An honest reflection is lacking in most people. So thank you for stopping by and reading with an open mind, I really appreciate it.

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      1. My pleasure! Glad to be the first one to comment, and I’m even MORE glad that you like my blog. Hehe
        I suppose vegan’s play an integral role in food culture, in that they at the very least inspire a discussion in regards to where food comes from and how it’s being produced. =)


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